A school friend came over to meet. I was so looking forward to meeting her. It was bringing back old memories and making me smile. All the stressful times we had at that time, were actually so beautiful. All the fights and fun we had. So I was happy and looking forward to pressing the refresh button.
She came over and started talking about her sister in law and how her sister in law had bad relation with her husband. How she was controlling her husband. I asked her, is it affecting you in anyway and the answer was, why shall it bother me, we do not live together. Great! Then it does bother you. That’s why, you have been talking about her all this while. Then she shared how she was facing health issues and I asked her, what was she doing about that? She said, I wish I can do more exercise, I wish I can spend more time with myself. That should help me a lot as per doctor. Then why are you wasting time on thinking and talking about someone else. Why don’t you start thinking and doing something about yourself.
His business was not growing enough. He wanted to talk about, how he could grow his business. But all the time, he was talking about his brother’s business, his uncle’s business and things around. Finally, I asked him, do you focus on your own business? It will not grow on it’s own. It needs your focus and energy. Do you sit down and think, what are your targets, how you can achieve them, how can you make things better etc.
Yes, our lives, our work, our health, our relationship, our children, they all work and improve with our energy and focus. More positive energy we give with our focus, better they become. Our energy flows with our focus. So, if we have been thinking about others all the time, even if it is to judge, we are wasting our precious energy. It’s like everyday putting money in someone else’s bank account.
Judging others would never help us. Somewhere, may be it gives us a kind of satisfaction or we are able to cover up own faults. But it would only put a cover on our ego. It would never help us in improving. Focusing on self will help.
