So many times, people come to me and complain about the situation and the agony they are going through. Someone complains about wife, someone about kids, someone complains about business partner and someone complains about what they could not do and wanted to do. After they finish explaining me what they are going through, I ask them one question, what do they want and no one wants to end. They are just looking for some solace. When you do not want to end it, why are you complaining? Well, one reason I know, we are conditioned to complain, for us everything is never perfect, we want this world to be as per our way and if it would be, we would not like that also, as we would think then now what would others think of me etc. Once I met a man, who did not want to work as he thought his father is an established business man, however, its an obvious thing that his father wanted him to work, finally father gave up on the son and said ok its enough I have earned, so do whatever you like. The son did not like this and said that you do not care for me enough. Deep down he knew he was wrong. When he got what he wanted, he did not like that too. Two business partners were seperating, one was trying to get bigger share by cheating, the other one was a calm person and said ok you take whatever you wish to, even if it means entire business, I can resurrect again. Now the first one did not like that also and started complaining, do you think I am a cheat that I would take your share.
Well…so in every situation we are conditioned to complain even when things happen as per our wish. Whatever is the ordeal we feel we are going through actually is created by us and we have 100% capability to end it. We worry about lots of ifs and buts and more than that we worry about not people, we worry about how would they react, what would they think about change and what would they think of me. We also build our comfort zone in that ordeal and we are not willing to step out of that. Future is unknown and unknown scares us. We are afraid of going in the jungle in the dark as we have not seen that part of the jungle, however, if someone has travelled through it many times, will laugh at it saying, nothing can happen. However, we are afraid as we have not seen it, so we are afraid of ending the ordeal as we we do not know, what would be life without an ordeal and biggest thing is what would I complain about?
You need to shed of your inhibitions about unprecedent and liberate yourself. This is an ordeal because you have made it so. It ends when you decide. You just need to shoulder the responsibility of ending it.
