Few days back, one genleman approached me for counselling, who is going through marital problems. He said because of my wife, I am no longer with my famil, I had to disconnect them, now she also fights with me and I have no one who can support me..I asked him, how she is responsible, he said she asked him, she would fight with him and he stopped connecting with them. Bingo…so who gave in to wife’s fights? I guess he, who actually stopped connecting with them and he had the answer. Once he realized that uptil now he is the one who is taking all the actions, he could decide that he is the one who can reverse it. Its ver easy to pass on the blame of situation on others and whenever something goes wrong, humans have tendency, instead of finding the solution, we want to come out clean of that situation. We want to make sure that we are not blamed or else our dear ego would get hurt. However, if we start accepting the responsibilit of the things and our own life, we can feel the power too. Once we are empowered, we can make the change too. Till you blame on others, you put the power in others hands and you can never take action to make your life as per you. When you feel its you, its empowering, like after that he immediatel contacted his other family and could apologise and established the bond again but before that he had been blaming his wife for the mess. Always remember its always you who is responsible for your life and only you can take any action.
