It is rightly said that the way we treat ourselves, we treat others.
I met a gentleman, got to know his life story and realized, he had been hurt by many people. However, he did not have an ounce of negativity in him. He was at peace with himself and everyone else. I wondered how he achieved that.
He shared his story. He shared that he was brutal and ruthless, and he felt proud of his behavior. People were scared of him. His own parents were scared of him. It was easy for him to get anything done as everyone was scared of him. But then one day, he loved a girl and she did not love him back. he wanted her to be there in his life but she felt scared and for the same reason, she did not want to be with him. He tried forcing her and she told him that he could force her behavior but not her heart that would come on its own. He realized this thing with everyone and realized that how much he had hurt everyone. More than people forgiving him, he had to forgive himself. Everything reminded him of the hurt he had given to the people. That was the moment when karmic chakra also reversed. Now, he was being hurt by many. He was on a dual journey, where he had to learn to forgive himself, not to get angry on others behavior and also to forgive them. It took a long time and he could achieve that. He felt lighter and peaceful. He felt more love inside and he was more compassionate. Because he could forgive himself, he could see the other side of a persons behavior, so he learned to forgive others too.
To forgive own self is one of the hardest things we need to do. We all end up making mistakes. What we need to do is, realize and accept those mistakes and forgive them and never to repeat them again. Once we forgive self, we realize that we deserved it, so does everyone else and it is not our duty to decide karmic result. We can learn to forgive and simply forgive. We have no need to be stuck on the fact that the other person has done wrong and shall be punished, That is the job of creator.
Forgive yourself and forgive others.
