He had been working as a domestic servant for 25 years with them. For him, he had given his life to them. They were finding many faults and they felt that as he was growing old, he was unable to do the justice to the salary he was receiving. Finally, on one fine day he said good bye. However, soon they were regretting as they could not rely on anyone for money and children. They had to go themselves. Moreover, one day one servant stole money. They were regretting and realized how much they depended on him. But he had already joined somewhere.
They had been married for eight years and he always felt she was not upto his standards. He always taunted at her and finally they got divorced. She was a homely girl and he wanted a modern girl who could fit into his corporate culture. After divorce he chose a girl from his office of his choice. Initially, everything looked very rosy but gradually he realized he did not have a home. When he entered home there was no one to ask for tea as his wife was working and she always said go and make a cup for yourself. I am equal to you. So many times, he had to make food himself or order from outside. He had no one to complain to. He wondered did equality mean lack of compassion. As when he was sick at that time also she said that she does not have time to sit next to him, so he better get up!
Often in long relationships, we start looking at things which are not done. We start complaining a lot. We look at things from a perspective that what is not done as per our expectations. These expectations are more or less not clear to us. We may not even know what we are expecting and later on to find faults become our habit.
To overcome such thing we must
Look at what is being done
See other person’s perspective
How can we make it more loving rather than complaining
Also think of a day without that person. I remember a story where a wife wanted a divorce and she was about to tell her husband that day. But instead of her husband it was police who knocked the door and told her that her husband died in an accident. At that time she realized that how much she loved him and she could not live without him.
Relationships need to be nurtured and we need to nurture them everyday. Without that lots of problems would keep growing as weeds and we need to weed them out regularly.
