Her husband always told her, you are good for nothing. She always took it to heart and tried making an effort and she did not succeed as per him. She would end up messing one or other thing. She started believing in same and she was always cautious. BEcause of that she was never peaceful. She started developing serious ailments etc. Her husband was doing wrong but she was doing further wrong. She started believing in those comments. Finally when she took professional approach, she realized she was really good and it’s ok, if we do some mistakes. More over, we do more mistakes when we started believing in same. So she started standing up for herself. She would also point at her husband’s mistakes when he went wrong. But she told him that it did not mean he was good for nothing. It simply meant something happened. Within few days, he started realizing his mistake and he stopped point at her.
His mother always told him never to talk about his success and if he would do, he would catch an evil eye. Now, whenever it slipped out of his mouth, and something bad happened. He started connecting dots and he would feel that because he shared so it happened. So he stopped interacting with his friends out of the fear and he started disconnecting himself from everyone. Gradually he started feeling lonely and suffocated. But when he started seeing things rationally, he realized that there have been many other occasions when he spoke and bad did not happen and when he did not speak, still bad happened. So he started changing himself on that.
He was always told by his father that he would not be able to achieve anything in his life. Which he believed as it was coming from his parents. HE grew up as a man with less confidence and not to mention with many failures. When he got married, his wife started supporting him and started giving him that confidence. When he started believing in himself with his wife’s help, he realized he was doing much better. Soon his relationship with friends improved. His own confidence improved his image too. He got the required promotion also in office. Very soon he was chosen for a very big project too.
Buddha said you are what you think. If you think you can, you can. If you think you cannot, you cannot.
So know what you have to nurture and what you do not!
