Yesterday met my friend who looked very happy and I asked her the reason. She said that I have set myself free! Free from what? That what others would think of me if I don’t do this etc. At office and at home, I have done many things which have harmed me physically and emotionally but just out of care for others and at office also I kept doing things which were beyond my physical capacity. What I expected was others to understand me but what I heard back in return was how bad I was when I needed someone. it was becoming a vicious circle. Because I had stopped doing what’s beyond my physical capacity. So I had to break that circle as I was getting defensive in my mind and creating further arguments. Affecting my health and peace further. So one day I sat and thought how should I break this circle? The answer i got was, do not care for what others can do for you, what others are thinking of you, do not feel bad for what you can’t do, just do what you can do without any expectation. Since then I felt like a load was lifted off my head. I feel so free and peaceful.
I knew what she meant. The biggest burden we face in life is what others are thinking of us, we shall not be hurting anyone, there shall not be any Karma coming back, we feel bad when we say no and many emotions like that. In all that we end up ignoring own emotional and physical needs without realizing if we do something beyond capacity then the whole system would come down crumbling.
Its true that we can never stop caring. We are born to care for each other. But we do have to set priorities for care. Someone else’s ego is definitely not a part of it. We care for others, their emotions but not ego. The day we will learn this difference, we would be free.
Be free, be peaceful, be happy.
