A girl grew up in a small town and her mother always told her, what will others think of you, so better you behave. This very thought gave her a desire to be accepted by everyone she met. She became a teacher and there also things continued. She was being used and she could never say no. Because she wanted to be accepted more. Then she got married in a joint family and while leaving her own home, her mother gave her a nugget of wisdom. Everyone in the family has to accept you and that will be the parameter of your successful marriage. She kept doing things to keep everyone around happy so that she could be accepted more. After 10 years of marriage when she could no longer take everything and she felt she would die like this, she told her husband, I have decided to shift out and are you coming along. Her husband shifted out wondering what else to do. She worked on herself and realized that she she had many more things which she never could explore. She sat and wrote her first book and then another. She opened a coaching class where she started training students on various subjects along with life and acceptance. She wondered, if she would not have looked at herself, she would have been waiting to be accepted by whole world which was never possible.
Another girl, who felt that she was not accepted in her family, joined a group and after one year, there also she felt she was not accepted and she joined a different group. Her desire of acceptance and to be appreciated was so much that she kept changing her groups. Until one day, she realized that she can’t be running like this. She has to find her own qualities and start something of her own. Who so ever will like it, will join and accept or else she will work alone too. She started her own cookery classes for kids which had immediate connect with parents in her circle. She started getting invites for events and various occasions. She wondered if she was not accepted by everyone as she had not looked at herself and accepted herself?
Look at yourself, ask yourself who you are, accept yourself the way you are, love yourself the way you are. If someone has to accept you, they will come along and if not, your no effort can make them accept you! But you need to accept yourself the way you are.
