She was crying very badly when she approached. She said that she got married some 5 years back. She sleeps in a separate room from her husband. Because of too many fights, they could no longer share a room.
She was crying very badly when she approached. She said that she got married some 5 years back. She sleeps in a separate room from her husband. Because of too many fights, they could no longer share a room.
I asked her, how it started and she shared that it was a love marriage. He helped her in improving her. But that constant scanner tightened after marriage. After getting married, all she could hear was you cannot even do this. Then a bigger taunt, I have tried so much working upon you. But you never want to improve. How would our relationship improve? It was all her fault. Her confidence was breaking down. She wondered if she could even raise her kids. Whenever she asked her husband, she always heard one thing, I want to help you improve, you must understand my intentions. She could not say one word after that.
Sometimes, I feel we all are so innocent. We do not know how to speak up for self. We just get manipulated with all such things. We keep accepting stupid things in life that way.
So she told him finally one day, how it was affecting her and how she would want things to be. When they visited it together, he realized that the relationship was falling apart because of him and not her. She was putting in all the efforts and she needed appreciation to survive. But all she received was criticism. She was losing her confidence and desire to live as she wondered if she was worth anything.
She started appreciating him and he started appreciating her. They started seeing each other as a blessing rather than as a burden. They both were happier and they made each other happier.
- Appreciate each other.
- Compliment each other
- appreciate what’s being done.
- Express your gratitude to have each other.
- Let go of what’s not being done.
- It’s not about improving, it’s about accepting each other.
- Create a loving relationship full of blessings rather than complaints.
