Most of the time what happens is whenever we are told something and which we do not like we get defensive. We try to point fingers at other, you also did not do that or you also said same. I am not saying everyone does that, however, 99% of the people I meet do that. When they come and talk about the problems, first reaction is always he/she did that and that is how it started or he/she said this. So what are you in this? A small child? Who does not know anything? Or you act like a child who wait for his parents approval, we grow up and we wait for others approvals and we wait for the image to be approved by others which we create. As soon as someone comes n pokes that image we get defensive.
Someone comes and says something and you react so where are you in this? Your strings are pulled by someone else. And then what happens, you keep blaming others for the miserabilities in your life. Now, you became miserable not because someone came and took control of your life, you are miserable because you did not believe that you could shoulder own responsibility. You became miserable as you could not take responsibility of own decision and you let others decide for you. You always waited for others to approve of that image and you were busy in protecting that image not self. So the image is intact not you.
Do not look at what others say and do, if you do that, you will keep losing self only, look at what you do and say. Does not matter what others think of you, you atleast know the reality deep down. Your action should be driven by you not as a reaction to others. If your actions are just a reaction you will always be bounded to others, you will never be able to liberate yourself and become free. Look at what you do and what you are..beleive in yourself and take responsibility of your actions..after that does not matter what the entire world says…you will be in command.
