Got a call from a lady and she broke down immediately. I asked her, what happened. She said that i cannot handle all this any more. it is too much. i wake up, prepare food, get kids ready and send them to school, then it’s husband’s time. Then house chores. Then food again and then kids again and then some other work and then evening again food. When her day starts in serving others and when it ends she would not know. her husband does not ask her how was her day and once she asked him, he simply said that you stay at home, it would be fine. That time, she broke down that even after asking he did not care. I asked her if she was living with her in laws and all and she said no. So it was only her kids and husband. She was nodding her head. So there are as such no taunts or difficult times and she accepted.
There are few things here:
I am not debating anything but yes, we are born to work and everyone is doing own work.
Husband was apathetic but yes, we all have to take care of our responsibilities. In this case, her family is her responsibility.
What was lacking:
No change in routine.
lack of compassion for her
Lack of anything at personal level.
So I asked her, what does she do for herself and she said no. So what gives you happiness?
She wanted to come back with the answer and it was ok!
So she shared, time with her family, kids health and painting.
Realizing this, she was already happy because she knew what she was doing was hers only.
Second thing was she started painting everyday. It started acting as a stress buster for her.
We must know why we are doing what we are doing and if it is not giving us happiness, it is not worth doing.
So know, where your happiness lies. Follow that. Without that you will not feel worthy of living. You will feel why am I doing what I am doing.
Life is not that difficult, if we are just aware. Be aware of your life. Do not bother about neighbours.
