He called and asked, why no one likes me. I asked him, what do you mean by no one. He thought for a while and he realized he was talking mainly about his children. he was separated from his wife and they had a bad marriage and divorce. As per him, his wife was taking out her anger through their children. (Many times it happens and parents should know, children suffer in such scenarios most. Their mindset gets damaged very badly).
Anyway, the point was, was it really everyone or his two children? His parents liked him, his friends liked him and many more. But when we start telling ourselves, it’s everyone, our mind starts treating it as everyone. So he said, I wanted to be better. Fair enough, we shall make an effort to be better. Then he shared his guilt. As per him, he had been selfish. He never cared for his wife’s emotions, he always took her for granted. He did not think of his children as his responsibility. As per him, his wife was responsible. So she was still! BUt then accepting that he was at fault, is the first step. Till the time, we keep blaming, we can never improve.
So how could he improve. Believe me we all have answers. Just that we need to start asking the questions. So the question Was can I become better? YEs. But the problem is, we want everything to change immediately. Very few want to go through the pain of transition. We all can if we start becoming better everyday. If we know we have problems, we already know, what is the better side. We need to start becoming better everyday. Rest everything would start falling in place.
So he started doing small things for his children and faced their anger too. He also started helping everyone he could. He started respecting his parents too as he realized how much his parents had done for him. Till the time, he did not do things for his children, he could not acknowledge his parent’s efforts too. Slowly, he started becoming a better human being and rest everything started falling in place. He became a better father, a better husband, a better son and people started respecting him. He could feel the change in his life also after that. He could focus on his business peacefully and he could do many more things. He felt that his life was improving as he could feel the happiness around him more.
Yes, love and respect also needs to be earned.
