She came back to her mom’s place after having a huge argument with her husband. They had a 10 months old daughter and she did not want to forgive him for his remarks. As per her he always supported his parents and ignored her. HE also did not call and she also did not make a call. But she wanted him to call. She wanted to tell him that he needed her and he was wrong. He wanted to say that she should not have walked out. If she has gone on her own, she should come back on her own. In this battle of ego, 10 months passed and the girl was growing up. Did they want a divorce, no? But no one wanted to take the first step as it was ego. Finally, the boy’s father decided to settle it down. He said that I would bend for both of you. He called up the girl, took both of them out on lunch, and asked them what did they want. If they wanted a separation or if they wanted to come together. If they wanted to come together then she should just come back with no arguments and he should also resolve with no arguments. He also shared that his son would go and fetch their daughter in law.
They wasted precious 10 months of relationship time in ego. The baby did not get her father because of their ego. And thankfully, the elders took initiative.
His son had an argument over him for choosing his profession. The father wanted his son to join business and the son wanted to take up a job. When the son took up the job, the father stopped talking to him and asked him to live separately. The mother started suffering and started staying sick. They both did not talk for years. They both loved each other and they both wanted to be with each other. But the ego stopped them from being together. After many years, when the father was sick, the mother went to her son’s place and brought him home. I wonder by not talking to his son, what did the father achieve other than hurting himself and the mother. And what did the son achieve by not talking? Keep talking, take up the job but do not quit the relationship. Even if the father would say few bad words, they all would be around because parents would never have bad intentions for children. Eventually things would have fallen in place. What did they all achieve by not talking?
Let the love win. Do not let your ego stop you from loving your loved ones.
