He lacked confidence. He was constantly talking about how others were not treating him right. How they took him for granted and how they did not value his decisions. He was 55 and he had felt this way all his life. So I asked him, did he respect himself? He wondered what did that mean? Did he respect the way he was? Did he like the way he was. Did he respect what he was doing and he could not say no! He said that there are better people around him. Does not matter. there is always someone better than someone. There is no end to do the comparison. We need to respect that individuality. He said no! I have never thought about that.
So we started travelling his life journey in the conversation. We reached to a point where he shared that how his father was very strong and controlling. How his father never respected what he said or asked. How his father always told him that he would be wrong and how better things are there. How he never felt respected in his family. (So message to all the parents.How you treat your children will decide how they treat themselves and other children. How they feel about themselves through out their lives.)
So this gentleman had to start thinking of all the good things he was doing and had done.
Also if he was someone else, how would he have felt about that person and he realized he would have respected himself a lot better.
What he also realized was that he never paused and loved himself and appreciated himself.
So he started telling himself, I respect myself for who i am. (He stopped criticizing himself totally)
Also, He said to himself that I respect myself for what I do.
Soon he started feeling that this was reflecting in others behavior too.
Others reflect our energy and thought process. So when he started respecting himself others started respecting him too. When he was not, other too did not respect him.
So be aware of your thought process and thinking what you want others to think about you. But most importantly, you become what you think. So think with an awareness.
