So few days back, my twin girls were fighting over, who would get to hug me first. It may sound appealing from ego perspective but it’s not a pleasant sight if it becomes every scene. So I asked them, what is more important and what does really matter here. So they told me, we hug you and I said that when you are fighting, you are missing out the point. They realized it and hugged me together. I have been telling them, you are growing big and mamma cannot take you in lap together….
And then one day, I was so stressed out. Feeling overwhelmed with chores, kids’ classes, taking care of everyone, calls, etc. Everyone is at home including kids, so the demand on my time has increased a lot. I was stressed out and exhausted and my one daughter came to me. Mamma, what is more important here? I was looking at her face. It was a reminder to me. She continued, she said that mamma you shall smile. That is the most important thing here. And I just hugged her and loved her. Though tears were rolling down my cheeks but I was smiling and happy.
A couple was fighting and wanted a solution. For five hours I kept listening to them and their arguments. I asked them, what is more important here, and they said that we reconcile for the sake of our kids and sort the things out. But are you doing that? From the place where I see, you are increasing your argument and you are nowhere to solving it. They immediately calmed down and instead of blaming each other, they asked, how can we sort it out?
A gentleman was short-tempered. He would get angry about every small thing. His family was also scared of his temper. He wanted to work upon his anger and I told him to start asking himself, what is more important. Whenever you are angry, you need to ask, what is more important. He started realizing that his children’s love was more important. His relationship with his wife was more important.
One gentleman went to a party, and he felt that he was not dressed properly. It was a little high profile. He started feeling depressed. He felt so low. I asked him, what does really matter? He realized that it was more important he was there and all, what a stranger thinks, it really did not matter.
Focus on what matters. Do not waste your emotions on energy and something which really does not matter.
