As soon as someone is out of a relationship he wants to move into the next one or if he/she does not want to move to next one looks for a shoulder to support which pushes him to next one. Most of the times, in such cases very soon the things do not work out very fast and start to crumble. This is the case when someone needed someone desperately however, in a general case also where someone is not mending a broken heart, if someone is not happy about self, does not have a self belief gets attracted to others very easily. They do not like many things about themselves and have lots of unmet needs because of that. To fulfill those needs they try to be with others and many a times end up using them. Somewhere when they feel their needs are not being met which they had expected they start resenting their relationships does not matter what relationship it is, whether it is a professional, friendship, lover one or any relationship.
Stop using people because you need them, be with them because you love them and you want to be with them. You cannot be with people truly by being mean and for that you need to learn to be with yourself first. For that you need to accept yourself unconditionally and love unconditionally. Once you accept yourself, you will have a positive belief about yourself and you will be contented with yourself. Once you are happy with yourself, you will be happy with the world too and then you will be with people because you connect with them as you will be creating bonds. You will never try to use people as your needs are satisfied already by yourself. If your needs are unmet then only you try to use others to meet those needs. So learn to be with yourself first so that you can be with others also without using them.
