You do not like when someone is talking about you especially in a negative manner, you want that you should get lots of attention, you want that people should believe you and for that you are ready to demean others too. Whoa….why is all this required? Why do you have to go and tell people “Trust me”? Why do you have to prove yourself to anyone else? Why do you want anyone else to approve of you? Why do you have to give a justification of what you are doing? Why do you have so many insecurities like what would people think of me and so manythings I can write here. The big question is why!
No one knows us better than us..we want whole world to understand us from our perspective and we fail in that why is it so? Because its simple. We fail to tell them what we really are. We give them a phony picture and people would judge us from that perspective and then we fail to answer the question that why is it happening to me. We have the insecurities because we know deep down inside us that whatever I have done or said actually its not the way it should be. Whatever I have presented or whatever others think of me especially incase if its over projected picture like of celebrities, its not true and when the picture inside does not match the picture outside, we feel insecure. We start confirming from everyone that what do you think of me..we may not ask that question directly however, we get focused on that.
So how do you handle such insecurities, where you do not have to wait for anyone else’s approval? Now tell me, why do you want people to think of you otherwise or what you are not, why do you have to make an effort to project you..let them think what they want, its their job, your job is to be yourself, after that you know what you are, why do you have to care about what others think of you or whether they would like you or not. Do you like yourself? First you need to trust yourself, then only you can expect others to trust you and when you trust yourself anyway you would not need anyone else to trust you. The foundation would be strengthened which would not shake with any tremor. You need others approval because you do not trust yourself because you have falsely built yourself on the basis of what you are not. Just be yourself and live with yourself. Do not live with someone else, or you would desert your best companion, self and then you will lose the trust feeling alone.
