What happens when you just add sugar/salt to the water and dont stir. They would just go and settle at the bottom. To dissolve them in water you need to keep stirring or else you would never have taste of what you would have wanted. Similarly, in our life, if we do not stir ourselves, our talents go and settle at the bottom. To become what we really wanted to, we need to step out of comfort zone because stirring daoes take an effort and stir the life, get the talents on surface and let them dissolve in our blood and life. The end product would be the best one. Same way, in our relationships, we let the best of the ingredients go and settle at the bottom and we keep tasting the things without the best ingradients. The result is we start finding it tasteless and boring and then eventually we start withdrawing from that. To get the best of a relationship also, you need to get out of your comfort zone, stir yourself, see what all you have, dissolve that in your relationship and then enjoy the drink.
We all have lots of gifts and talents to offer to our relationships and to our lives. However, the only problem is we let them settle at the bottom and we think life has nothing to offer. We forget that we have not made an effort to stir the things enough. I met a couple, where the husband came to me saying he loves his wife but some how he does not find any charm in the relationship now. I asked him to stir his relationship and he was surprised. I asked him to look deep down and get what all is there. To dive into his relationship. He went back in time and recollected lots of love, pictures, happy moments and things like that. He also recollected how after every fight they use to hug each other and many things liek this. He was able to bring back the settled love on surface and smile again.
Now if we go deeper, we need to stir our souls to see what our soul has and our soul has all the love of the Universe which it can share with everyone. Our soul has the pure light of God which is waiting to be spread in all the directions. However, we have let everything settle to the bottom and we keep blaming life has nothing to offer. So if you want your life to change and you would want to be what you really are, get out of your comfort zone and stirr yourself enough to dissolve your talents.
