I met a girl who is
going through turbulent marriage right now. As per her in her 10 years of
married life, she could never share her emotions with her husband. She is in
tremendous pain because she is unable to share about herself and how she feels
with anyone and she is not receiving any love which she deserved as a wife. Or
let’s say, which is the right of every human being. First we receive that love
from our parents, then from spouse and then from our children. If we do not
receive this love anytime, then we start suffering. So whenever she sees a
couple, she gets tears in her eyes because it reminds her of her pain and the
gap in her life. She is not a bad person who would feel jealous of others and
in fact I believe there is no one who is a bad person. We all want to be good
and we all want to do good things. We all want to be honest and e all want to
live a truthful life. However, we succumb to some follies and we fail to stand
up for own beliefs. We fail to stand up for own truth. Whenever we go through
any pain, our first reaction is to avoid that pain. However, avoiding that pain
or painful situation does not help. Like this girl wanted to run away or wanted
to pretend there is nothing wrong. However, neither of this would help in
changing the pain. Its like a splinter is stuck in your finger, and you feel a
sudden pain. Now would you find out why this pain is there and remove the
splinter or you let it be there? Or would you try to take a pain killer? I
guess you would find out why this pain is there and next time you would learn
that you should avoid such splinters. Pain is our biggest teacher. It teaches
us all the lessons of life and if we try to avoid pain, we would never be able
to learn those lessons. However, life would make sure, it would always teach
you those lessons. Avoiding pain means avoiding life.
going through turbulent marriage right now. As per her in her 10 years of
married life, she could never share her emotions with her husband. She is in
tremendous pain because she is unable to share about herself and how she feels
with anyone and she is not receiving any love which she deserved as a wife. Or
let’s say, which is the right of every human being. First we receive that love
from our parents, then from spouse and then from our children. If we do not
receive this love anytime, then we start suffering. So whenever she sees a
couple, she gets tears in her eyes because it reminds her of her pain and the
gap in her life. She is not a bad person who would feel jealous of others and
in fact I believe there is no one who is a bad person. We all want to be good
and we all want to do good things. We all want to be honest and e all want to
live a truthful life. However, we succumb to some follies and we fail to stand
up for own beliefs. We fail to stand up for own truth. Whenever we go through
any pain, our first reaction is to avoid that pain. However, avoiding that pain
or painful situation does not help. Like this girl wanted to run away or wanted
to pretend there is nothing wrong. However, neither of this would help in
changing the pain. Its like a splinter is stuck in your finger, and you feel a
sudden pain. Now would you find out why this pain is there and remove the
splinter or you let it be there? Or would you try to take a pain killer? I
guess you would find out why this pain is there and next time you would learn
that you should avoid such splinters. Pain is our biggest teacher. It teaches
us all the lessons of life and if we try to avoid pain, we would never be able
to learn those lessons. However, life would make sure, it would always teach
you those lessons. Avoiding pain means avoiding life.
So whenever there is
any kind of pain, always try to understand what is causing that pain. Like whenever
this girl sue to see a happy couple, she use to feel that she did not receive
this love from her husband, so it was causing that pain. Then she realised that
she has to work upon her marriage and it took her 10 years to realise this
thing. Before that she always use to think that my husband is a bad man and he
never loved me. However, then she started looking at the factor that why he did
not lover her though initially they were good together. Then where did that
love go. Instead of trying to change circumstances, learn from them and it
would be easy to move on. Do not try to push them away, because they are
happening for a reason. Work on that reason and they would be over. Or else
they would keep knocking until they enter into your life. Its like one person
is knocking at your door and if you do not open the door, he would start
knocking harder. If you still do not open the door, he might leave but would come
back again. You can never escape in life. So instead of avoiding pain, learn
from your own pain. Learn about your own
emotions because they are causing that pain. Learn what emotion you are
learning and then it would be over.
any kind of pain, always try to understand what is causing that pain. Like whenever
this girl sue to see a happy couple, she use to feel that she did not receive
this love from her husband, so it was causing that pain. Then she realised that
she has to work upon her marriage and it took her 10 years to realise this
thing. Before that she always use to think that my husband is a bad man and he
never loved me. However, then she started looking at the factor that why he did
not lover her though initially they were good together. Then where did that
love go. Instead of trying to change circumstances, learn from them and it
would be easy to move on. Do not try to push them away, because they are
happening for a reason. Work on that reason and they would be over. Or else
they would keep knocking until they enter into your life. Its like one person
is knocking at your door and if you do not open the door, he would start
knocking harder. If you still do not open the door, he might leave but would come
back again. You can never escape in life. So instead of avoiding pain, learn
from your own pain. Learn about your own
emotions because they are causing that pain. Learn what emotion you are
learning and then it would be over.
