She was always angry and full of judgement. Her family wondered how to handle her, They were scared of her comments and behavior. She felt she was always right. She felt that, if she knew something was wrong, it is her duty and responsibility to correct that person. But is it so? So her family wanted her to be better and more cordial and loving with others. But she always wondered why she did not have friends? Why everyone tries to stay away from her? Why her holidays are lonely? Why her counter parts are more loved? When she started thinking this way, she felt there was something wrong with her (Up till now, she was blaming everyone else).
When we started talking, we found out that she always made an effort for herself to be perfect and when she felt that someone else was not perfect, she could not tolerate that. But perfect in what terms?
How her house is maintained
How she looked
What time breakfast shall be delivered on time
Serving perfectly to the guests
Her clothes and bags
She maintained a perfect demeanour but she did not realize that something else can be perfect too. How she maintained her relationships, how comfortable she made others in her company and how good others are rather than how bad others are. Once she corrected her focus, then her focus shifted to how bad others. Her mind was trained to find mistakes.
What bad they have done
What they could not do for her
How they do bad things in their lives
Then she realized that more she was focused on others lives, more she was hurting herself and damaging her live. Her relationship was getting spoiled everyday, her kids were going far from her, her own parents were staying away from her. The only way was to focus on what good she could do unconditionally (No Exchange of good or bad). When she started focusing on her good and how good can help, she realized, actually that she had hurt so many people while thinking of correcting them. She just gave criticism to everyone.
Every thought has power. What we focus upon expands. So if we focus upon wrong, the wrong expands. The only way to correct things is to focus upon good. First start with self and then you will be able to focus upon others good too.
