Indian mythology has a famous legend. Draupdi was married to five brothers. Her legend goes back to her past life. She spent a life of austerity to please God to get a good husband in next life. So when God appeared she asked for five qualities in her husband. Like best arrow man, best judge and who speaks truth, one who is strongest of all etc. God said that it is not possible to have all the qualities in one man but because she asked, she will have five husbands in next life.
What I always learned from this story was that no one can have all the qualities. Bheem had strength but then he got anger. Power did not come with judgement or patience. So everyone and every quality comes as a package. No one can have all. No point in wasting time and efforts and relationship on finding best things which others have (And kind of one best from everyone we meet) and expecting all that in one person) Sometimes lots of people do that with their children too. They compare their child with every other child and tell their child that see how good the other one is with all the best things they can find. See he is good in maths, see he is good in sports, see he is so compassionate. But one who was good in maths may not be good in sports. Did anyone hear about all rounder actually? Who is good in all the subjects, all the sports, has lots of friends, who is the best of human beings, serves parents like he would serve God and everything else. I am sorry, I haven’t seen one. So stop expecting that from your child. Similarly, stop expecting that from your husband too or wife too. May be you can decide for few things which you really want but you can never have everything.
We need to accept a person as a whole. We need to love the person as a whole and then only relationships bloom. We cannot point out what they do not have in comparison to others and then relationship to be a happy one. We need whole acceptance and love. So create a new one, better one and you will be peaceful and happy in your life!
