She kept looking at her phone and jumped over to see when it rang….was suddenly disappointed to see that it was not the call she was expecting….the father asked his son to behave and he did as he was asked so the father felt good..when the son grew up, he did not care about how father would feel and this made his father miserable day by day…the husband did not ask his wife how was her fever as she was running around doing chores even in fever and she felt he never care for her and why was she living her life…now if he would have asked…what would have changed in real terms..she would have definitely felt happier but in real terms nothing would have changed. Most of the times, nothing changes. The girl did not get the call and she knew she would not get but she wanted that call. We expect and from others and when they are not met, we feel hurt, it is a daily life situation in everyone’s life. So if we have to avoid being unhappy or getting hurt we have to stop expecting and I know being human it is not easy or the thing which seems far from possibility. It is possible that moon may start burning tomorrow but not possible to expect humans to stop expecting from each other and above all from God. Expectations are like having a trade off, I did this, so I expect this in return, trade sounds dirty so is the expectations. The father thinks that I gave birth to my son and brought him up, so he should respect me and listen to me, but he forgets that son did not have any role in all this, whatever was done by the father was done by his personal choice. The boy thinks, if I love this girl, she should care for me but he forgets that he loves her for himself not for her, he feels good by loving her so he wants to load her with what he wants? Stop expecting from others or you would be hurt, if you want to be pain free, shift your locus of control on self. When you do something do it because you had wanted to do it not because you expected a return, don’t trade in your life, just live it. You would be happier and freeier.
