He hadn’t spoken to his mother in the last 20 years. he hated her. In the same way, he hated his brother. He always wondered if they died, he would feel any pain, and he felt he would not. But this kind of negativity was hurting him more. He was always in pain and when we live with so much negativity, we create more negativity around us. We create around us, what we have inside us. He never had any other stable relationship, with his wife and ex-wife and his children. HE always had hateful relationships. Maybe the mind was unable to bifurcate. I asked him, what did this negativity get you and he was at a loss of words. He realized he kept blaming others but he had damaged his life.
So how to correct it?
It has to start from where it started going wrong. he had to speak to his mother, and share everything with her, hear her side of the story, and forgive her. He was feeling weak in his knees and said he would say all these things towards the end of her life. But who knows this is not the end of life. If he is feeling like taking corrective action now, maybe this is the right time. After a lot of convincing, he went to his mother and started spending time with her. They kind of reconciled. Within three months his mother died, but he was feeling very peaceful. If he would have waited, he would have to wait forever.
During this pandemic, many people who have died of COVID-19 death, their families have suffered a lot. People could not see their loved one’s one last time. Once a person enters Corona ward, no one can enter into that wing of the hospital. If they come back, they have all the time. But if they do not make it alive, the family does not even get to see the dead body. they wrap it up in PPE kit and the hospital cremates the body or buries the body. No one is getting a chance to say last words and I feel it is more painful.
So if you want to say something or solve something with someone, do it now, do it every day. Do not wait for the right time. Right time is when you feel like doing it.
May God give peace to the families and the departed souls.
