People accuse me of I me and myself, they say that you are making people selfish. Now tell me who is not selfish. We love anyone because we like doing that. We pray to God also for self not for God. I want everyone to be happy so that when they are flowing with happiness they can spread that happiness further. You cannot give happiness to someone else if you are not happy yourself. You can give only what you have. If you have depression you can only make others depressed. If you have negativity, you can give negativity. You cannot give what you do not have. So to spread happiness, you need to be happy yourself first. If you want to spread happiness, without being happy yourself, you will never be able to do that. Now to be happy yourself, if you want others to make you happy, you would invite miserabilities as other can never live as per you. You will be binding them and suffocate them and make them further unhappy and thus what will will return to you will be suffocation. Thats how our relationships are suffering. You need to remember that you are the source of your own happiness and you decide what makes you happy. Thats why you are the source. If you decide you will be happy in Delhi, no other place will cheer you up on the contrary if you decide where does it matter, its my home wherever I am..you will be happy everywhere. IF you decide you can be happy, if your loved one does so and so for you, then again you will be miserable, however, if you decide I am doing my part and rest he is free, you will be happy and everything would just appear as a bonus. Decide what you can expect from yourself, decide that you will keep yourself happy and be happy. If your locus of control is on self, you will never be miserable.
