A gentleman slipped into depression. His family did not believe this because just few days back, he used to be very talkative. No one could beat him in discussions. People were scared sitting next to him. While having a discussion with him, he shared that he is the most insecure person on the Earth. All the time, he had been scared that he should not be proved lesser than others, so he always kept putting people down. But now, it has taken a toll on him. He is full of guilt and there is no strength to fight it. So what did you gain by putting others down? I used to feel that if I am putting someone down, I am proven better than him. But now, I realized that I have become like a pest who feeds on others strengths. I have no strength of my own, which means I am hollow. Realization of this makes me feel sick. I do not know what to do!
His self image was in danger and lots of people go through such things. We do not realize that when we put others down even while joking (Making fun of people, calling names etc, calling others fool or stupid) might be giving us pleasure right now, but in reality we do not trust ownself, (What looks as self trust actually is lack, there is an insecure self image which we are trying to protect). So how can you gain real strength?
1. A tree is strong and provides support to ,many, It provides supports to birds, insects, creepers, the insects, the passers and many more. The tree build own strength by having strong roots which means we need to have strong roots. We all have roots but we need to go back to our roots and build trust around that. We need to know own qualities. When we know, what all we are capable of, we would start building own strength.
2. It is only with human beings that we compare. A flower is never insecure from the other flower’s beauty. No tree compares, no animals or anything. We compare and we feel insecure. Stop comparing!
3. When we push others down, we also go down which we do not realize. When we take others up, we also start rising. So start uplifting people.
4. Start taking steps to do good things. When we do bad things we do not like ourselves and we thus become more insecure. When we do good things, we like ourselves more, we appreciate ourselves our, so we feel better about self which means having more trust in self.
5. Start thinking positive about self! Be compassionate towards yourself.
6. Start depending on yourself more rather than on others. More we depend on others, more we would be insecure because we would feel what if someone would not help me!
It is important to develop self trust. You are strong enough to carry enough weight. You do not need it by putting down others.
