He was so stressed. He said,” I have done so much for my family. I have been doing always. I did so much for my wife. She does not seem to care.”
So what is the concern here?
You have done so much or she does not seem to care?
It’s both. If I would not have done anything, and then she would not have done in return, I would have felt ok, but when I have done so much and then she has not done anything, I am unable to find peace!
Yes, mental peace is above all. But why did you do things for your wife? And why shall she do things for you? HE thought for a while and said, it is expected. She should do certain things and it’s like? So you did things as per your expectations and you kept calculating as per your expectations what she did in return? What if she is doing the same? She did things as per her expectation of a wife’s role? What if this was her capacity? What if she feels the same? That you did not take care of her as per her expectations?
So what’s the solution?
Stop calculating. Do things, simply because you want to do it. If you would keep calculating, you would never be peaceful. Once you let go off the expectation, then you would feel the difference.
After one month, he felt much calmer and peaceful. there were no fights and he wondered why there were no fights.
Sometimes, we do not express things in actions but our energy becomes negative and it creates a negative environment at home. So we need to stop that process.
Similarly, one gentleman gave donations to one organization. At that time, his business was not doing good. He thought that if he would create something good, it would help. But it did not. It made no effect. He asked why.
See the thing is, what you are facing now, is the result of doing things in the past for many years. Suddenly one deed cannot change. But if you continue doing things, it may start altering the course. So if you really want to help, just help and stop calculating. At least that would have mental peace. We can never put together the pieces of the puzzle.
Whatever you want to do, do it. At least good things shall be done with no expectations.
I wonder sometimes. When we do bad things, we feel we have no consequences. At that time we shall have fear. And when we do good things we do all the calculations. So we shall refrain from that.
