If you really want to be happy, move on from your pain.

She wanted to be happy but I wondered if she really wanted to be happy. And many more like her. She was divorced seventeen years back and since then every day she told the story. How she suffered and everyone gradually started staying away from her. She wondered why?

I told her a joke and she laughed. I told her same joke several times and she felt irritated. So I told her that for how long people can feel sympathetic for the same story? So I asked her the next question, what else do you have to share? Some good or bad or some achievements? Other than the divorce story? She was quiet. She did not have anything else. I told her that then it’s high time she creates another story for herself and make sure that this time it’s a happy one. Everyone has enough troubles in life and no one wants to feel sad further. people want to be happy and feel light. But if she keeps sharing pain that too like she was carrying an old dead body, it would stink and people would stay away from that stink. She wondered if she wasted 17 years of her life in that.

Yes she did!

He married a girl from a small village thinking she would be a home maker. But she made him live separately from his ailing mother in few days of getting married. After that she left him also for another man. Whenever a girl tried approaching him, he only cried, how he had suffered. She sympathised but again for how long? Whenever a girl wanted to marry, she saw only pain in him even after 10 years of this incidence. One asked him about his future plans and he had no idea. She asked him what did he expect from her and he said that he wanted her to understand how tough it had been for him. It had been definitely but then what’s next? He had no answer. So she told him, she wanted to create a future with him but if he sees no future how they could be together?

We all go through pain and different situations in life. Often we start gaining strength from that. Initially our training is also like that. When we get hurt, we get mommy’s attention. if we are happily playing she is relaxed. In life we implement same thing. We feel if we are hurt, other will give attention to us and if we are happy we may not get any attention. But that’s not true. Initially we may but what we would get out of attention? Longer we are hooked on to that, longer we are wasting this precious life. We are keeping ourselves from a happy grand life. By playin

g victim, we do not need to gain strength, we just have to let it go. If we keep focusing on what bad had happened, we would create only further bad. We need to really start creating happiness and have a better life.

So move on! It’s for yourself! Let it go. Think of what better you can do with your life!