He was getting divorced. His wife or ex-wife had cheated on him. He wanted to destroy her. For five years he was seething with anger. He was unable to focus on on his business. He couldn’t get into a new relationship and for everything he was holding her responsible. He felt that she destroyed his life. When he finally came to me to discuss, I told him, he was responsible for destroying his own life. He wasted his time in hating her, being angry on her rather than focusing his time on building a life. And I asked him, even if he destroys her, what would he get? It will never rebuild his life. Point taken! So his focus was on forgiveness and creating own life after that. after two years, he could bring back his business on its feet again and also he was engaged. After that he realized that when he was angry he wasted five years of his life.
She was blaming her husband’s family for her health situation. She was blaming her mother in law for the problems between her and her husband. She died and then she thought her relations would improve. But did it? No! After 10 years, she realized she wasted her years on being angry with her mother in law and taking it out on her husband. After that she worked on her relationship and then it improved.
Anger is poisonous. Being angry means eating slow poison daily. It destroys our life and our body. Whenever you feel angry, let it go. You have right to be angry but to hold on to it, you need to decide how far you want to go. Do you want to carry it for years? You are only hurting yourself. Forgive and let it go!
