A few years back, I attended a workshop. I am so grateful that I did and I had an opportunity to learn about myself and life.
We did a few daring exercises.
- We had to walk on the bed of broken glasses. I was scared and did not dare. Then our trainer told me, I would be fine. For the first two steps, he was holding my hand too. And I came out unscathed. I realized “Nothing is as big as it appears“.
- We had to bend an iron rod with the softest part of our neck. I thought it would kill me but it did not and when I really focused, I could. So I learned “We are stronger than we know“.
- We had to walk on the bed of burning coals. By this time, we trusted him and ourselves more. We were more daring…..hehheheh. So he made us focus before the exercise that we have come out safe and healthy with a smile. And we did. So I learned ” Whatever is the problem, take a step at a time and do not try to run or stay in the problem. Or else it will burn you alive. Just have patience and you would walk through everything in life. Also, focus on the outcome you desire not on fears. “
These lessons I share with everyone who is willing to work on goals and having some doubts and fears. These lessons have been holding my hand in the toughest of the situations ever since.
Some years back, a lady approached me. She started her call with “I cannot make it” It’s so difficult. She was going through a mess from all the directions. Her husband was seeing someone else. She was having a tough time with her boss. She just wanted to change the place and everything. But that was not the way. One step at a time and we can do it. So first she changed her job. One front settled. Then she asked her husband, what he really wanted. He wanted a divorce. They filed for mutual consent divorce. She did not want to make it dirty. After three years, she had someone else and she was happy in the job too. She always told me after that, I know I am strong. I know I can make it.
In another scenario, a gentleman was going through a very bad phase. His business was going down. His father was hospitalized for a few months. The lessons were the same for him also. Genuinely, he kept supporting his father and started working on the business too. In two years his business revived. His father passed away after that. It was a set back for him but he recovered. But he knew he was strong enough to handle anything now.
However, in these scenarios and many more scenarios, few things have been common:
- Genuine intentions
- genuine efforts
- focus on the outcome
- Feeling of gratitude rather than cursing
- Wanting to solve it rather than escaping it.
- Doing good as much as they could.
Life can be hard but it is always meant to help you grow. So do not hold back yourself in your thoughts. progress and everything else will help you grow.
