She was very upset. She shared that her husband did not want them to fight! So what is there to be upset about? She cried and said that everytime she tries to talk, he would bring out all the previous arguments saying you fought over this and that. She wondered if she fought alone. So she asked him one day, did I only fight? Have you never seen how I have cared for? How I have loved you? Did I argue alone? How can I argue alone? You have counted 100 times, how we argued but have you counted even once that how much good time we have? So all the time you have been thinking about arguments? Have you thought of good things we have in between us? Her husband was quiet! He could not answer.
But this discussion shall set a guideline for all of us who are in a relationship or who are going to be in a relationship. Practically for all of us.
If you really want to have a good and satisfying relationship in life follow few things:
- Count love more than fights
- Acknowledge the good things done
- Be grateful and express thank yous
- Never expect lots of things to be done for everyone in your family.
- Do not worry about things to be done for entire family. Everyone is adult and can do their own things. Just because one person came in, does not mean she has to take care of the entire family in one day.
- Think of good times more, rather than bad times.
- If you have arguments, have them to solve things rather than to win
- Have the intention of creating a loving relationship.
