A gentleman got divorced and stopped going to meet anyone. He left his job and confined himself to his room. Was he under depression? May be a kind of. But his first concern was what would people say? Thinking that he was getting more and more into depression. He thought that people would think that he could not manage his wife, he also must have done few bad things that why she left him and many things like that.
A gentleman was one of the richest in his city. After few years of business he incurred losses and he lost almost everything. He had to shift to a smaller house too. He reached to a stage where he stopped going out and stopped any kind of social interaction. His first reason was, what would people think of him? Initially he declined all invitations and later on as people always found a negative answer, even they stopped inviting. He assumed that people are thinking bad of him because he does not have good money now, that’s why he has stopped receiving invitations.
Now, in above two scenarios, who asked the question? Who answered the question?
Both are same individual and same minds. We can never know someone else’s answer 100%. Because everyone’s ideas are inspired by many factors like TV, friends, family, various experiences etc. We have no glimpse of them. So how can we know what someone else is thinking.
So we ask a question and assume the answer which is our own judgement only, which we imply on others.
So we torture ourselves by own assumptions on other’s name.
So what is the solution?
So instead of thinking of what others are thinking of me, we need to get a clarity of own thoughts and we need to keep them high. We need not to have fears of someone else’s thoughts. We need to have a clarity of own thoughts. More and more we would be aware of that, more and more we would see, we are free from what others are thinking.
