One lady who had problems with parents said that you do not care about family.
One gentleman who ignored anyone on streets who needed help said that you have no compassion.
One lady who had ego issues with everyone around said that you have a big ego.
One gentleman who kept high standards for himself said that you are so disorganized.
There are many more…..
I was hurt when I heard them and I always wondered how bad I am. i always felt I lack something. But then, while growing up I asked myself:
1. Why everyone is judging me on different parameters.
2. If everyone has different parameters, in the world of 7 billions, I would be judged on 7 billion parameters.
3. Who is giving em good marks?
4. If I am not getting good marks it means I have 7 billion shortcomings?
5. Do i have anything good or not after all these shortcomings?
6. How come everyone has own opinion because the person they are judging is one?
7. Should I criticize myself as per others or should I start looking at what i have?
8. Why there is no one to look at what i have?
9. Who would tell me my strengths after telling me my weaknesses and weakness as per whom?
10. What would make me happy, their judgement of me or my own view about myself?
After I kept asking these questions I realized few things:
1. What they told me is inside them. That is why they can see only that in me and others.
2. Everyone is unique and has own strengths. Someone else’s strength is not my weakness I have my own strength.
3. What others see as a problem in me can be my biggest strength (It reminds me that everyone used to say you talk a lot and its a bad habit but this is the biggest gift I have, the gift of communication)
4. I can be happy only if I look at what I have and I work on that rather than what i do not have as per others
5. I need to love myself, accept myself rather than criticize myself all day to be happy
6. If i start looking at what others are always talking about me as per their own mind and experience, I would loose who i am. So it is important that I focus on what i think of myself.
So I took a decision, I accept myself, I love myself. I set my own goals, I have my own vision. I give freedom to myself. I do not judge myself. I am free and that is why I set others free. I do not feel like judging anyone else too. I love myself and I am able to love others too the way they are. I do not care what others say, what matters is what i say to myself.
I am love, I am loved and I love.
