Her mother in law always blamed her for not making enough efforts to be a part of the family. They wanted her to eat as per them, wear as per them, wake up as per them, still everything was not enough. Because sometimes her realself also came out.
He joined as a full time domestic servant. But he always heard the family talking about his habits, walking style, talking style.
Two brothers lived together and when they got married, they continued living together. When elder one got married, his wife always compared two brothers and always told her husband that how his brother was better than him. It broke his confidence and his relationship with his brother. She could not accept him the way he was.
We have a problem. What we want we do not know. But yes, we definitely know what we do not want. We point out mistakes in everything we have. It reminds me of a story where a painter made a beautiful painting and kept it in the middle of the road writing, point out all the mistakes. Next day, whole painting was red. He was disheartened. His friend asked him to make another painting and keep it again with the caption, please correct all the mistakes. Next day, there was no tempering with it. It was all pristine. This is how we are.
So what shall we do?
First thing we need to take a decision that we will accept everything the way it is.
Second thing, know that we are not perfect either, so we cannot make a perfect decision.
Everyone is designed by the creator, so he made a perfect choice.
We feel bad, when something is not as per us. But we have to be more patient in knowing, everything cannot be as per us. We need to give that space to others.
Focus on accepting rather than rejecting.
Lower down the expectations.
See what are the good things in a person. What the other person is doing.
Be there to help people in rising rather than pulling them down.
It takes effort to accept people the way they are. We need to rise above our ego!
But accept everyone with patience and then start working on everything else. Live in harmony!
