You can start again
“If you do not accept that you have fallen, how would you stand again?”
Same thing is with the failure. If your ego does not let you accept that you have failed, how can you start again? That is why it is very important to accept that yes you have failed and you need to start again. Do not ask the question “How can I fail?” instead ask the question “How can I fail?” They both look similar, so what is the difference? In first question the stress is on I, I can never fail, I can never do a mistake, I am always right, everyone else has to follow me etc. However, in the second question, the stress is on how, that how it happened, how can I correct it, How can I not let it happen again. If you realize the difference between two you would always learn to start again after a failure. It is the difference in the attitude and perception. You need to change to change your perception about how you look at failure. I have a client, when he first visited me he claimed that he had set up big offices but he has never been able to maintain good relations even with his wife. He told me that he has always been good with people however, he has always been a failure in the relations. I asked him, why you? He said yes why me? He thought he was a victim as people could not understand him. I asked him to think over why me instead, which changed his outlook. After 3 sessions, he could see the improvement in his professional and personal relations both he accepted what was wrong with him. If he would not have accepted that, he would have never been able to work upon his relations.
So I would say:
“Get over of this “I” and work upon “how” to start again.”
