I receive so many calls for failing relationships, where the women themselves are destroying the family set up. Yes, we heard it right. The women are destroying own families. We have talked about gender equality, and we have talked about how they shall stand next to their husbands, and they shall be given equal respect etc. But, on the name of that, what is also happening is that they have stopped fulfilling their responsibilities.
It has never been about the equality. Why do we say, going and working and earning or taking care of the homes is about equality. Why there is a comparison. Everyone is already equal. When we compare and use the words like equality or they are equal, we already prove that someone is more and someone is lesser. In reality, we never need to draw the comparison. It is about the responsibilities.
A lady teacher got separated from her husband because he asked her what had she cooked. She told him that why he could not cook as it was not her duty to cook. Fair enough. But he was coming back home at 9 pm and she was coming back home at 3 pm. She had extra time in her hand than him. So whose responsibility it shall be? I asked her if at 12 o clock they had to go out for some urgent task, who would go? If it were her husband or her. We know the obvious answer. If the car breaks down, who changes the tyre? If they need a cane of water as the car has heated up, who would fetch it? If she wants she can quit the job because she has a back up and she could. But can he quit his business and the answer is no. (She was saving all her salary not using it for domestic purposes). Then why are we not talking about equality at that time? Why it has become a matter of convenience?
Because it is about the responsibilities and duties. Similar way, we all need to fulfil our duties as per our gifts. Mother nature has given us different gifts as per the roles which are assigned to us. Men are physically stronger, so they play the role of protector well. Women are soft in nature and they bear children, so they have to nurture that. And it does not make anyone lesser or more. Please do not destroy your own families on the name of equality. Everyone is already equal. Please fulfill your responsibilities with love and raise happy and loving next generation. Do not confuse them and do not pass on this anger. Do not make gender equality as an excuse for not fulfilling your responsibilities.
