WE all have feelings, some are negative and some are positive and some are somewhere neutral and we are the only one who are responsible for own feelings. Once a scorpion was drowning in the sea along with waves and one saint saw him. He pulled it out and it stung him back, out of pain, the saint flung him back and thought now it would die if I do not pull it out again, it would die so he pulls him out again and same episodes keep repeating. One wood cutter was watching this and asked it would keep stinging you, so why are you trying to save it. Saint replied, I have the feeling I need to save it and if he cant change his feelings toward me, being a mature human why should I change mine? How you feel about a particular situation or incidence or a person depends all on you.
How you feel will decide on your suffering, your pain and your happiness. So in a way, your pain your happiness all depends on you. If you want to reduce your pain and increase the happiness, you need to change your feelings toward the things which you feel are giving you pain.
