So what do we want? My father should do this for me, my mom should do this, my wife should do this, my kids should do this and when things do not happen the way we want, we feel miserable and blame everyone around us. wait now, stop over and think…aren’t we forgetting someone most imp here? Who is the locus of control? All the things started from you, expectations and blame. You gave control of your expectations in someone else’s hands and then got hurt, however, if your happiness would have dependent on you, then no one else would have been able to erode it. My mom asked me to go to her mothers place and when i did not, she felt upset, why, because, her happiness dependent on me however, if she would have thought everyone has own life to live and way he/she wants to live..i can do what i like best, rest i do not care..her grievance would have ended. I am not saying we should disobey parents, however, what i meant is stop expecting and do what you can do best. When you are waiting for a friends call, you can call and check and ask also why he didn’t call. Things would be much simpler.
