Lots of people come to me and ask, what do we need in our relationship so that it can become better. Sometimes, it’s parents, siblings, and friends too. We always talk about love and yes definitely love is the basic thing. Without love, there is no relationship. But how do we handle that? How dow e nurture that love?
What I realized was that most of the people have this complaint, I am misunderstood, no one understands me, no one listens to me. So what are they asking for? Some compassion in the relationship. Where you help the other person in relieving his/her sufferings.
So how do we do that?
First of all, we need to listen, then we need to understand. We need to step into another person’s shoes and understand the emotions and then say what we really would like to say. Often we end up hurting each other because we pass on judgemental comments without understanding each other’s emotions. We need to stop doing that. We need to be compassionate towards parents, partner, children and everyone we have around.
So many times, people come and share another problem, where they feel their servants do not stay long. The staff keeps changing and the answer is the same. Have compassion for them and they will be loyal to you.
Without compassion, the relationship will not explore its depth. It will stay on the surface. If you really want to touch someone’s heart, touch with compassion and the love will blossom. Every relationship will prosper with compassion in it.
All the parents need to train their children on compassion. So that they can understand their own emotions and other’s emotions as well.
