We all feel lots of pains in life and we feel others have hurt us, I was no different, even I felt the pain when someone did something which I felt he/she should not have done. We have a long list of dos and donts in this Universe, some are actually the things we shall not do to make this Universe a better place and some, I do not know from where have the come.
If we look deeply at any pain, we would realise, for every suffering caused to us, we have a premonition or preconceived idea about that pain. I am going to take an extreme example for that. There is a couple, the husband is infidel, and the wife goes through tremendous pain and suffering, now since the time we are born we are trained or conditioned to think that, in a relation one has to loyal and your husband belongs to you and if it does not happen, she goes through pain as she thinks he has crossed his line. Now, it is your idea about the relation and that is why you are suffering, in reality, no one has control over anyone and no boundation can bind anyone. More you try to bind, more pain you create for yourself and for others. I am definitely not in favor of infidelity. However, What I am concerned here is about that we can choose to suffer by changing our idea about pain. If we thing that something much give us pain, we would suffer and if we become immune in our ideas we would stop suffering. It was emotional pain but same thing goes with physical pain as well.
