One gentleman was going through a bitter divorce. She had filed a case of dowry harassment and domestic violence. He had never done that. She told him, that she would never spare him. He was scared and wanted her to suffer too. So I asked him, if he makes her suffer what would he get? She would realize! How do we know she has realized. Only you would get a satisfaction that she has suffered and has realized. But what good that would do to your life? What do you mean?
It is like there is a fire around and you are standing in the middle of that. So you shall think of coming out of the fire or you shall think of igniting it further? Ofcourse, I need to think of coming out and reaching to a better place. But in reality, we start thinking of increasing the fire when we think like this. See either you can stand in midst and spend your energy of coming out or increasing it. You cannot do both. If it increases, it will burn you alive. So what happens to the other person, is irrelevant because you are getting burnt in that fire.
So what shall i do?
What do you want in life? I want peace. Then create peace in mind. You want happiness, create happiness in your mind. Then think of the future you would like to have. Create a better picture of your mind. Do not create a negative picture of revenge. Spend your energy and focus in creating your life rather than thinking bad of others.
So what happened?
In 2 years, he got a job promotion, he was remarried and when he reached back after 5 years, he was one of the happiest persons. He said that now, I spend my energy on creating my life!
