I love children and they all are so beautiful. We can see so much of innocence even in their tantrums, manipulation and everything else which stresses us out. Even when they spoil things, it’s such a blessing. These things are there because they are there. They all look so beautiful with the beauty in their hearts. However, some of us choose to ignore that beauty and look at how people would see them. If they have fair complexion, if they are tall, if they have good looks etc. Recently during a gathering I met a small girl of around 4 years of age. All the children have a tendency to gather in any gathering and play together. I find it so strange yet so beautiful. they do not care how they look, what background they are coming from, whether they know each other or not, they just gather and have fun. They do not care what someone else is thinking, as soon as they see each other, they become friends. So I am blessed with two toddlers, who are growing up fast. So they also get together with any child they meet. So they were after this 4 years old little girl. She had little dark complexion and little strange behavior. On every small thing, she was getting angry and wanted someone to follow her. But then I saw the strangest thing! Her mother came and applied make up on her face. I could not tolerate this, I held her hand and asked why are you doing this. She is so small, she anyway looks pretty. Her mother kept applying saying, she would look better. So you are telling your child you are not good enough as you are. Then she would see other kids not doing same and she would feel they are good and they do not need it, so they are better than her and when she would grow up, either she would have lot of complexes or she would try to control others with her behavior. I felt sad for the little girl.
Then I saw a mother of 3 years old boy changing his clothes several times. The child definitely was getting annoyed as he wanted to play around. Her mother was muttering words like he had to look better than other kids. I felt so irritated, angry and frustrated for such mothers and protective of those kids. But then!
Can we accept ourselves the way we are. Can we train our kids on accepting themselves? So that they can accept this beautiful world too! Can we simply nurture them with love? Can we not impose our inferiority complexes on our children? Can we tell them they are beautiful, we are proud of them, they are intelligent, they are happy, they are strong? Can we simply love them and make them a good and loving human being rather than just good looking humans?
