One lady was crying. She said that I was never this bad. I have now become the worst type of myself. After she felt she had cried, I asked her what had happened. She got married in a joint family where she felt her elder sister in law was very actively creating and managing kitchen politics. She played many tricks to harm her to put her down. So many things she did not do which she was blamed for. So her friend told her that if she had to survive she had to become that bad. So she started playing the games which she herself never thought she could. But after a year, she realized that everything was becoming her thought process and she was becoming the same. Now, even when no one was playing against her, she would play negatively.
It happens with many of us. We need to stay guarded. I would say, if our body is the temple where our soul lives in, then the mind is the God inside it. So when we are letting others negativity or other’s negativity stay inside our mind, we are letting that stay in the temple, or we are making our own temple dirty.
So when someone else is bad towards us, we need to realize why it is hurting, what is causing negativity, we need to change what we are telling to ourselves. For example instead of saying she is troubling me, tell yourself how you feel. When she is troubling you, you have no control. When you say I am troubled and how can I manage it, then you have control. No way, anyone should become like the one he/she is complaining about.
How she handled after one year?
She stopped playing games. But instead of staying silent she started taking a stand for herself. She stopped trying to impress everyone. Instead, she started asserting herself. Her sister in law realized this and started staying away too. So more problems were happening because she stayed silent. Eventually, everyone could see her positivity.
So it does not matter what is the situation, focus on your light! Increase your light rather than becoming a part of others negativity.
