His wife left him after 10 years of marriage and his male ego could not tolerate that. After lots of anger, he started getting into depression. Finally he seeked help. While having the discussions here are the things which came out:
1. She did not bring lots of things along, while getting married
2. They did not have children. (Once she had conceived but she had a miscarriage. Doctors said it was over stress)
3. She was working and independent and he was jobless for last two years. Whatever she earned she gave it to the family. She was working at a very senior level with an MNC. Her income was enough to support her joint family.
4. His whole family pressurized her to pressurize her family to support him, give him money as she did not bring many things at the time of marriage.
5. Everyone taunted the girl for not having children but no one said anything to the male.
For him, how dare she could leave him!
Accept the fact that you did not deserve her!
Who said that a girl has to bring things while getting married
She was sharing all her lakhs of income
She heard all bad things about her family
She lost a baby because you guys could not provide a peaceful environment. She was going through maximum pain still she was taunted maximum
Why should her family support you?
But I am a male! And who taught you that? My mother and this is how things happen! Then think again. Keep yourself at her place and decide if whatever was happening was right to her? He was quiet!
In discussion with his wife few things came out:
At every step I kept tolerating everything because I was told this is how things happen. This is society. Whenever I felt like walking out, my mother told me, you need to adjust. Now, I could not adjust. For me, either I had to commit suicide or I had to walk out and I chose later. And why didn’t you think that all that was wrong and the answer is this is how I was told!
So in this scenario, one is doing wrong because he was told and one is tolerating all wrong because she was told. People are so innocent. We keep believing whatever is told to us. But it is time, we stop and think, what is right and we stand up for right. Train your children on how to think rather than what to think. Let’s create an aware individual. Let’s create an aware society.
