A family contacted for their 30 years old son, who was going through severe depression after losing his job. I asked him, why he was feeling so bad and he said that no one likes someone who is not earning. Maybe. And no one loves you when you are not in the job! Well, I do not agree that for family or parents. They always love you. Especially parents. They loved us when we were small and in our dirtiest of shit and that love is always there. But they criticise.
Fair enough! Do you criticise yourself in your mind? He was surprised by the question. Yes, this is the question. Do you criticise yourself in your mind? Do you love yourself and the answer was maybe? Do you tell yourself? And the answer was a clear no. You do not know that you love yourself and you have never told yourself. How would you know? Your parents love you and they have always loved you and told you so many times but you doubt their love because they do not say it enough now. How would you trust yourself when you have never told yourself? All you tell yourself is I am not worthy enough because I am not in a job. Now, let’s say, it’s a second person who has been constantly telling yourself, whatever you are telling in your mind? You can’t do one thing right. You are not earning. You are so bad. You are stupid etc. He was quiet and he started crying. He said that he would he feel that person hated him most. Exactly! This is what you are giving yourself. hatred.
And what do you actually need? Love and encouragement. Which would be like? You can do it. We are with you. We love you. You will be fine. This too shall pass. Few things like that. Maybe like you, even your parents did not realize the same thing. They wanted best for you. It does not mean they do not love you. So tell yourself, all you want to hear and love yourself the way you want to be loved. Soon he was out of that depressing phase, more cheerful and happier.
So we all know what we have to do. Love and accept ourselves and yes, do tell I love you!
