One girl was crying as she had fought with her mother. During the fight she said lots of things to her mother which were very judgmental and she knew she had hurt her mother. Her father left her mother some 15 years back and she went to the extent saying you deserved it. She was regretting all that and as she could not take her words back, she was cursing herself. She said that i do not know what to do? How should I change myself? I am in habit of damaging like this. I do not think at that time and I do lots of things in heat of the moment and later on I regret. I know my mother brought me up with great difficulties and this is how I have paid her back. It is not only about my mother I have hurt so many people who have given me love. Yes, it is definitely a bad thing but all this would not help. So what should I do? Start doing something which you can thank yourself for. Now, who in the world thank himself/herself. Well we all must do. Her eyes were spreading with surprise and she said that wouldn’t it be mean? How van it be? We can curse ourselves and that is not mean or bad, but why can’t we thank ourselves? That makes more sense. So when we do something bad, we curse ourselves, so we shall start doing something which makes us feel good about ourselves an then we can thank ourselves. Now, that makes sense. So what shall we do?
Well, look around. See what are the things which others are doing and make you feel good about them. What things have you read and touched your heart? What things have you done which make you feel proud of yourself? Make a list and start doing atleast one thing every day. Meet me after one month and we will talk again. She followed that. She would hug someone, buy a chocolate for a poor kid, would appreciate her mother, buy gifts for herself and mother and manythings. Every day she would make an effort. When she came back after one month, she was a changed person. She said that, I do not feel bad about myself and I do not need others approval to feel good. I know I am doing good and I feel good. I am grateful to myself and to everyone around.
So can we all do same? Doing atleast one thing which we can thank ourselves for?
