When I was growing up I started getting instructions by my mom and few of the aunties around in the family that do not do this, do not do that, now you are a grown up though I was just 12 or 13 years old. If they found me playing with small kids they would start gossiping that she keeps playing with kids. Ofcourse I felt bad at that time when I heard them talking about me and this way they imposed adulthood on me taking away the small child inside me. Finally I grew up and I still play with the kids. Now Mom and aunties dont accuse me as they have accepted me however, mommies of the kids still complain that instead of controlling them I spoil them.
I understand discipline and I follow that. No one has to come and wake me up at 5 am and ask me not to eat whats not good for me. I am always on time when I have to meet someone. What I wonder most is on the name of adulthood and discipline why are we asked to lose the self? We all have a small child inside us because we grow up in size not by heart and that child always wants to be free. Why do we put that child behind the bars when we grow up. Do you remember how happy you were in the younger days? Because at that time you did not follow restrictions, you had the freedom to express. You lock a child inside the room and he would go ballistic. He would make sure he is out in no time either with his own efforts or with his voice. However, if you keep him locked ignoring his voice, he would eventually go quiet but would lose his charm and happiness. When we grow up, we keep that child locked and forget that it is locked. So the child inside goes quiet and loses his happiness. Its a part of you and when a part of you loses happiness, how can you be happy?
If you want to run around in the meadows or in the rain or want to play snakes and ladders, laugh out loudly or become silly, why do you stop yourself from doing that? Why do you have to base your self evaluation on the basis of what would someone think if you do this? No one has time and if someone has…who cares? Just liberate yourself from all such inhibitions and let the child be free. Playing and expressing your child is freedom and believe me its one of the biggest stress busters. You do not need those sponge balls or any exercise to be stress free, just liberate your child and you will always be stress free.
