He always looked at his brother as an example. He admired him. After getting married, that turned into jealousy. So it reached to a point, if his elder brother would buy candy for his child, he would always buy. He was always under the pressure to know what his brother was doing. Somewhere his wife also was pushing him for that. So what happened in all this? He forgot to focus upon, where he should have actually focused! He forgot to focus upon, his own business and home. After a few years, he realized he could no longer afford what his brother was buying, his kids would not talk to him and he had an argument with his wife everyday.
He wondered he followed his brother in every way. But why his brother has grown so much in life and he came down.
She always followed her younger sister in law and what all she was doing. She would buy similar clothes. She would try to go to the same places. Even she started following same religious rituals. She never accepted but wanted to be like her. She felt everyone loved her sister in law and no one loved her. After a few years, her sister in law had a happy home and her home was falling apart.
Well, her sister in law followed herself and loved herself. No one loved her yes and that’s so true because she also forgot to love herself.
In both the cases and many more cases, people compete and follow the lifestyle or what the other person is saying. However, what we do not realize is that, whatever a person is, is becoming with his/her thought process. One is growing and is being loved because of his thought process. In the thought process of competition and jealousy, a lot of thought process is coming from a feeling a lack. I am not good enough, and the other person is, so let me follow. Now, this feeling of not good enough or inferiority complex, will take anyone down.
If you really want to know and follow, follow how someone is thinking. How they are feeling and if you can grow your thought process with that, you will see yourself growing too. If you really want to grow in life, grow your thought process.
