They were fighting badly. Every time, they fought, they fought about what the other person did not do in the past 10 years of their marriage. Their children started slipping into depression. They both wanted to prove to each other, who was worse and who was better. I asked them one thing, let’s say, we declare a winner one day and then the next day, where would that help? Shall it satisfy their ego? BUt then is the relationship about this? Then why did they get married? They should have practiced and participated in a marathon. What about children? What is the mindset they are growing up with? When they asked their children, in a very meek voice, they shared they would never like to get married. A 9 year and a 8 year old saying this! The reason was simple, they saw fights and they saw, how everyone was suffering around.
We want to get into a happy situation, no one wants to get into a fearful, negative situation. Children felt that a relationship meant a lot of fights and blames. So they wanted to be, wherever they were.
Yes, there are positive examples too. Where the couple was caring and always kept each other on the priority. Their children were playing family family and wanted to get married. Because they saw a happy environment. They always talked about, how they will take care of their homes and how they will support their partner.
Whenever you are doing something, always think about how it will impact the relationship. If it’s helping the relationship then do it. If it does not help the relationship, then do not do it. Do not do things which are against we rule. Which makes you you and me. Do the things, which make you we in a relationship. A relationship shall never be about you and me. It shall always be about us.
