In the restaurant the waiter misbehaved and the manager apologized. Still the waiter was grinning which annoyed him further. But he remembered his own values and did not create a scene. However, he was very troubled when he came back. Whole night he kept repeating the situation in his head telling himself, how he should have replied back to the waiter without creating a scene or how he should have asked the manager to fire him.
She got married and entered into a new home. Her husband told her that she should never speak back on anybody’s face. She would listen to typical joint family taunts, allegation everyday and as she was not allowed to speak back, she would keep repeating her conversations in her mind everyday which kept on increasing.
In the office her colleague took credit of her work and she could not say a word. However, she kept repeating that in her head, that how she should have replied better so that she would have been proven right in front of her boss.
There could be numerous situations in life where we know there was a drama involved. We know that someone was lying or was creating a scene. Someone was either talking in high pitch to suppress everyone, was crying foul or was creating manipulative situations. Often we are unprepared to handle them and we keep repeating them in our head sometime even for years. Now let’s see what’s the harm here:
We cannot change what has happened
By constantly repeating situation, we do not realize we are experiencing it as many times as we are thinking about it
Every time the situation is becoming bigger and worse as other arguments are getting connected
We are piling too much of negative energy without any release
So how shall we handle drama:
Do not get involved, walk away
If you have to speak, speak, do not suppress, or atleast go and share with someone
Do not keep repeating, if it’s very bad, write it and burn it
You are not responsible for every conflict, drama and situation around you. Stop blaming yourself. Do not try to talk yourself out. Simply, tell yourself it was not my fault.
People have a habit of creating drama. DO not disturb your peace because of that.
