Someone was crying as she had acted very badly with her in laws. She said that she always hated her mother for maintaining a distance with her father’s family. She thought that her mother should have been more cordial with them as it would have made her father happy. But now when she is married herself, she realized that maintaining distance could have been the most peaceful way and she had gone ahead and acted badly. She would shout back at them or even would argue with them.
I was feeling bad for her and everyone else. Because at one or other point of time we all go through something similar. It is not about the joint family situation. It is about how we get to see our different sides in different situations and with different people. There are so many permutation combinations of any situation. People and circumstances. if people are different things change. If situation is different, things change and if they both are same and time is different ( As we grow wise and old) things change. Everytime, something happens, we get to see own side. Situation is a squeezer, it brings out whatever is inside us. Its like if we squeeze a mango, mango juice will come out and if we squeeze an orange, orange juice will come out. Whatever is inside you, it will come out.
With different situations, we also get to see different sides of different people and that is how we get to learn about human behavior and life. So instead of judging or feeling hurt or crying, just try to understand. It will also help us in accepting self and others. We would know, how we can act and react. Do not blame others for how you act because different people or situations will act only as a trigger and you will get whatever is there. If you want to change it then work on it.
Often we claim that we know others but the reality is we do not know ourselves enough, how would we know anyone else completely. But if we can start discovering ownself, we will be able to discover others as well as this whole Universe. So the journey starts from who we are.
